Few things in this life come easy. Why should it be like that in love too? It is very common for a relationship to be tied up at times. There is no shortcut to your relationship, but we learn many things through mistakes. In these matters, it is often the attitude that decides."

(Solmuja parisuhteessa. Rakkauden mahdollisuus. Parishuheskeskus Kataja ry, 2017. P.6. Translated from Finnish)

Sometimes love and partnership can be lost or at a dead end, and you need the help of a professional to re-open the conversational connection. Solmuja parisuhteessa -couple's counseling offers intensive support in which many issues concerning oneself, one's partner and the relationship are discussed in depth.

Knot counseling can be a single visit alone or together with a partner, but it is most effective when visited completely together. The knot process includes the Knots in a Relationship book and a task book (only available in Finnish). The duration of the process is 8 visits, 1.5-2h/visit and the topics are:

1. A knot in a relationship. Starting process and defining the node.

2.How did it come to this? Examining the united endeavor.

3.How does it feel? Recognizing your and your partner's feelings.

4.Sexuality in a knot? Listening to your own body.

5.Where we are now? Structuring the node situation.

6.What I want? Hopes, dreams and goals.

7.Where do we go from here? Put words in to action.

8.What did we get out of this? Summary and feedback.

When I am open, I experience stronger emotions than before. I remember forgotten memories from the past, even from my childhood, which raise their heads with hope that they would be seen. I may experience feelings I haven't been able to feel in years. The tingling numbness subsides. Missing, being angry or crying are possible for a long time.

When I fall in love, my innermost being also opens longingly to wait for the good. My emotional world is filled with strong good feelings. I feel interest, happiness, passion, closeness and deep togetherness. But in addition to good emotional flows, emotional burdens are also set in motion, ice cubes and dirty waters stored in the soul, which give rise to the fear of being rejected, shame or feelings of inadequacy, depending on what kind of emotional burdens I carry."

(Solmuja parisuhteessa. Rakkauden mahdollisuus. Parishuheskeskus Kataja ry, 2017. p.28-29. Translated from Finnish)

For more questions, ask me: marianne.kvist@saroja.fi 

Or check the website of Kataja ry https://parisuhdekeskus.fi/blog/solmuja-parisuhteessa-parineuvonta/

https://parisuhdekeskus.fi/palvelukartta/solmuneuvojat/